“How to keep a good kid good.”
September 3rd, 2010Bad kids want to harm your good kid. And one of the easiest ways to do that is to get him to try illegal drugs. Once he’s done drugs, a good kid can rapidly become a bad kid and his life can become a shambles. I’ve seen this all too often in the Georgia drug rehab programs where so many once good kids wind up.
There’s nothing more satisfying to a bad person than to bring a good person down. Bad people, you see, feel better when they’re surrounded by other bad people. They’re inclined then to undermine the nature and integrity of good people around them. This is as true with kids as it is with adults.
If you want to keep your good kid safe, tell him what’s right and what’s wrong. Tell him what to do and what not to do. Tell him he’s a good kid not a bad kid. And being a good kid is all right and being a bad kid isn’t. He may not always listen to you, but that’s no excuse for not telling him the score. Because if you don’t tell him the score, about the good and the bad in this world, somebody else will, and that somebody else may just tell him that wrong is right and that bad is good.
Most parents want the same things for their kids. They want them to be happy, to be healthy and to be successful. Given a safe environment to grow up in, kids will thrive and achieve what their parents want for them.
But today’s environment is not particularly safe. We don’t live in the 1950’s. Kids are subjected to bad influences and peer pressure. With both parents typically working, kids have less support and defense against these bad influences.
Bad influences and peer pressure make it even more important to stay close to your good kid. Make it safe for him to talk to you about what bad kids are telling him. Counter the bad messages with good ones of your own. As a parent you can make a big difference in your good kid’s life. Or not.
Fritz Alders
Managing Partner, Georgia Alliance
A helpline for Georgia rehab programs